What's Important For Your Kids Future

 The goal of parenting is not to give your kids a good future. Their future is not in our hands, you dont even know if it will ever happen, it takes years to see if you are successful or not.

This is something you can do for your kids everyday.

Dont worry about giving them a good future, give them a good past.

Its a huge part of us as an adult, our memories.

You can help with the childhood they bring into their adult life. Present is something that we can almost control

So i see this video the other day in Tiktok. Parenting is an interesting topic for me like

This is why I think giving a happy, memorable childhood is more important in helping them for the future.

1- you can do it now

Definition of a happy,fulfilled childhood is different to every individual, situation, financial level etc. Ask your kids or small children:

• What makes you happy today, at school, when you play with mom?

• What things or memories that you remember

You will find 2 elements in that. One, they feel happy and two, they involved a person

Kids dont find lots of money happy but they remember going to the store buying a pink ice cream and walking to the park while eating it with you. And they remember it.

They feel happy when doing something with someone who pays attention and enjoys it with them.

2- you can see the effect not that long sometimes

It won't take you 30 years before you can see the effect of your going to the store with them,  or helping them tie their ponytail. You can see it in their face, you can see it when they help other kids with their hair, you can see it when they offer to help you carry stuff to the kitchen

3-its the small thing

Let them choose what movie to see tonight, let them play in the puddle while it is raining. It's not the big thing and sometimes, it doesn't even cost a lot to make them enjoy themself.

4- you can control it

You cant control or make sure that your kids will go to the college you paid for, you cant control the type of friends they have in the future but right here right now they are in front of you and you can decide what things, memories, lessons you want them to get.

5- it helps with your inner child issue

The reason we are so protective of our children is we dont want them to suffer like us. We tend to give the best to them but its not helping as they need to experience the world. Our inner child issue that is unresolved and we tend to project it when parenting our kids.

Helping them to enjoy their childhood, feeling the training, making friends etc in a way fulfill our childhood dreams too.

6- there is no manual

As its your first time being a parent, its also your kids first time being a 5 years old. There is no manual to parenting, there are only guidelines. We need to teach them according to their time as the way, the challenges so many factors are affecting them now.

Ali r.a the proprhet muhammad friend said teach your kids accoding to their generation.